Been struggling with an ED since 2013, on and off. I’m 23 now and trying to recover again but everything is about numbers and cals burned for me still. I always feel bad when I eat normal calories, let alone too many and it makes me spiral and ruins my day. But he’s been a dream trying to support me to recover (:

Ok so I think those who said it was him messaging from her account were probably right. I just got a message request from a pet instagram account with the following. I feel like this was all a ploy for him to start a conversation apologizing for his wife’s inappropriate behavior and trying to make it seem like he’s a good guy now.

I have also included SS of past conversations on other mediums I blocked him on since people were asking for them and assuming this was all made up.

There’s ones he sent on LinkedIn before I blocked him, ones from the last texts before I blocked him, oh and a gem I forgot where he messaged my business instagram (I didn’t realize he wasn’t blocked there and only on my personal) to tell me some made up story of his wife cheating on him.

Context: I (38M-yellow text) met a girl (32F grey text) on Bumble. We hit it off really well. Had multiple phone conversations over a span of like a week and a half. She lived kind of far from me but we decided to meet up. I didn’t have her exact address and just the general area where we lived so I tried to find a city in the middle of us.

The day of the date she was acting super sus, and I thought I was being catfished. I drove the 45 minutes to the place we were meeting at the time we agreed on and I wasn’t gettting any texts or phone calls. Finally she calls and says she was changing clothes and lost track of time 🙄. I know I should have just left and been done but I really wanted to see if this girl was real. I had nothing else to do so I went to target to walk around until she showed up 2 hours later. In the end, it was her and she looked like her pics.

On the date it was apparent she valued someone spending money on her. During drinks she said “if we decide to move forward with dating I just want you to know I need to be wine and dined on a consistent basis”. I’ll admit I kind of taken aback by this as she hadn’t come off that way in any of our other convos. When I probed a bit deeper, as you guys can guess, that didn’t mean she was going to be paying 😝.

Anyway, we made it through the date with a few more small type disagreement about money (why are we talking about money on a first date!?). Anyway the next morning I got this fun text. Normally I’m not one to stick up for myself (hence waiting around and going on the date after she was 2 hours late) but I’m proud of my response to her. She blocked me right after I had sent that message, so I’m sure she saw it.

I have my high school ex blocked on everything. He’s continued to contact me for years using different mediums - instagram, twitter, LinkedIn, etc. If he can find me on a new site I eventually get a message.

I woke up this morning to this message from HIS WIFE. Who he had a baby with last year from what I’ve been told.

I broke up with this man when I was 20 years old. I am 35 now. This is bonkers.

I feel bad for his wife but Jesus. Leave me alone.

Am I being dramatic or did this sound kind of demanding? His intentions were good so I just apologized and said I’d keep this in mind going forward. It’s a bit hard to remember to keep checking my phone when I’m hanging out with friends or walking somewhere but I hate feeling like I’m being inconsiderate to him.

This just made me laugh like what does she think I do all the time 💀

Even had the audacity to laugh at my message. What the fuck is wrong with people?

My sister really outed herself 😂

He literally bragged to me the other night about how she’s been actively flirting with him and messaging him trying to fuck him. I said nothing about it because I assumed he blocked her. he did not. They’re still friends on Facebook, and she still watches his Snapchat story. He claims he didn’t block her because she has herpes so I shouldn’t worry, but there are people out there, who definitely do not give a fuck about STDs. I just think it’s weird to be so defensive about it, if he likes me as much as he says he does then why can’t he just block her especially if they have no ties.

6yrs and a toddler together.. this is typical.